Where Every Connection Becomes a Bond
You’ve been dropping hints about date night for three weeks.
He finally says, “Let’s just order pizza and watch that show you like.”
And then he looks at you with that proud smile, like he just planned the most thoughtful evening of your life.
Your unromantic husband genuinely believes he’s being romantic—and the disconnect is real.
He’s not trying to disappoint you. In his mind, he’s showing love in perfectly valid ways.
1. Putting Gas in Your Car
He fills your tank on Saturday morning and walks back in looking satisfied, maybe even a little smug.
In his mind, this is the ultimate romantic gesture.
To you, it’s just… practical. Basic. Nice, sure, but romantic? Not exactly.
He’s not being lazy; he’s speaking a completely different love language.
2. Fixing Something You Mentioned Was Broken
You casually mentioned the squeaky door three months ago.
Today, he finally oils it and genuinely expects you to swoon.
He thinks problem-solving equals romance.
That he doesn’t understand why you’re not throwing yourself into his arms over a door hinge? That’s the gap between utility and romance.
3. Bringing Up Memories From When You First Met
He randomly says, “Remember that time we got lost driving to the beach?” and smiles to himself.
He thinks nostalgia is the same as romance.
In his mind, bringing up the early days proves he still cherishes those feelings.
For you, it might feel like he’s living in the past instead of creating new romantic memories in the present.
4. Sending You Random Memes or Instagram Reels
His idea of a love language? Forwarding you a meme at 2 PM with “lol us.”
He genuinely believes this counts as thoughtful connection.
To him, sharing something that made him think of you is proof you’re on his mind throughout the day.
5. Telling You He Admires You (in the Most Unromantic Way Possible)
“You’re really good at organizing stuff.”
“You handled that situation well.”
He thinks objective observations about your competence are romantic compliments.
To you, it sounds like a performance review, not pillow talk.
6. Cooking Dinner (Even Though He Always Does)
He makes spaghetti—again—and seems to think this particular Tuesday’s spaghetti is somehow more romantic than last Tuesday’s.
He equates routine acts of service with grand romantic gestures.
“I made you dinner” feels, to him, like a declaration of love.
7. Giving You a Quick Kiss When He Walks In the Door
He comes home, gives you a peck, and moves on with his evening.
He thinks this daily ritual proves his devotion.
To you, it feels like checking a box on his to-do list.
His effort is genuine; his execution is just… lacking.
8. Making You Laugh With the Same Dad Joke He’s Told 47 Times
He tells the joke. Again. And looks at you like he’s Ryan Gosling in a Nicholas Sparks movie.
He believes humor equals romance.
But to him? That groan you just made? That’s basically foreplay.
What This Really Means
Your unromantic husband isn’t clueless because he doesn’t care—he’s clueless because he thinks he’s already doing it right.
He’s been showing love the only way he knows how.
He’s speaking one love language, and you’re fluent in another.
Neither of you is wrong—but if you don’t bridge the gap, you’ll both keep feeling unseen.
The good news? Most unromantic husbands aren’t trying to disappoint you.
They’re just operating from a completely different playbook, one where oil changes and dad jokes somehow equal candlelit dinners.
